What does it mean that hear all parties before deciding?

Let each internal drive express its concern before making a decision.

Example: A software engineer received two job offers in the same week. One paid forty percent more at a prestigious company. The other was a smaller firm doing mission-aligned work at a modest salary. He felt certain the prestigious offer was correct — the money was obvious, the resume value undeniable. But something nagged at him. Instead of accepting immediately, he sat down with a notebook and wrote from the perspective of each drive he could identify: the financial security drive, the status drive, the meaning drive, the autonomy drive, the family-stability drive, the creative-growth drive. The financial and status drives dominated for the first ten minutes. Then the meaning drive, given space to articulate itself, produced three pages of specific, vivid reasons why the smaller firm aligned with what he actually wanted his life to look like in ten years. The autonomy drive, once heard, revealed that the prestigious company had a command-and-control culture that would erode his daily experience. The family-stability drive — the one he almost did not think to consult — noted that the smaller firm was fifteen minutes from home while the other required an hour commute each way, and his daughter was starting kindergarten in the fall. He took the smaller offer. Three years later, he considers it the best professional decision he has ever made. The quiet drives had the crucial information. They just needed to be asked.

Try this: Identify a decision you are currently facing where you feel internal tension — it does not need to be large, just genuinely conflicted. Set aside thirty minutes in a quiet space. Open a notebook or document and title it "Internal Hearing." First, spend five minutes in silence, attending to your body. Notice where you feel the conflict physically — tightness, agitation, heaviness, restlessness. Then begin writing. For each drive you can identify that has a stake in the decision, write at least one full paragraph from that drive's perspective, in first person. Start each entry with "I am the part of you that..." and let that drive express what it wants, what it fears, and why its concern matters. Do not edit, argue with, or dismiss any drive while it is speaking. After you have written from every drive you can identify, read back through the full hearing. Note which drives you heard immediately and which you almost missed. Note which drive you would have acted on if you had decided without this process. Finally, write one paragraph describing what you now understand about this decision that you did not understand before you began.