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Distinguish being influenced (changing mind due to

Distinguish being influenced (changing mind due to persuasive argument) from being controlled (changing position due to emotional discomfort with disapproval).

Why This Is a Principle

Derives from Autonomy is the felt sense of being the author of your own (autonomy is authorship of actions) and Extrinsic motivation (reward from external recognition) (extrinsic rewards undermine intrinsic motivation). Prescribes test for whether belief change preserves autonomy: would you hold this if partner were calm? If no, it's control (extrinsic motivation) not influence (genuine persuasion that preserves autonomy).

Source Lessons

L-0610

Self-authority in relationships

Maintaining self-authority in relationships means you can love and respect others without surrendering your right to think independently.

Connections

Derived From (2)

AxiomAutonomy is the felt sense of being the author of your own AxiomExtrinsic motivation (reward from external recognition)

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